Why are you drawn to certain people?
September 12, 2017

Glennon Doyle tells the story of being with her daughters a while back, snuggling with kittens. “Why is that one your favorite?” she asked one of the girls. The answer: “I think because she likes me.” Then the other girl piped in: “Me, too. I like mine because she likes me.”

It’s intoxicating, isn’t it? Basking in the glow of someone who thinks you’re all that.

Yeah, I know. Approval’s overrated, the most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself, blah blah. But if connection didn’t matter, who’d risk falling in love and getting married and having children to go kitten shopping with?

It’s a risk because you don’t see only adorable when you’ve been around someone thirty or forty years. Maybe you start taking each other for granted. Maybe you just get tired. But take a poll of the elderly couples still holding hands in the grocery store. I bet they’ve been mighty gentle with each other when venturing into Not Adorable Land.

Can you imagine a bigger payoff, though? What’s more important than actually liking the person next to you in line?