Who keeps you honest?
September 25, 2017

My friend Brooks Palmer is the kindest person I’ve ever spoken with. He helps me be kinder to myself. He’s my kindness coach.

When I’m trying to decide whether to keep something, I’ll ask myself how that object makes me feel -- the way Brooks taught me. If the answer’s “good” I don’t stop there. I’ll pretend Brooks is off to the side, looking at the expression on my face with a raised eyebrow.

“Fine,” I’ll almost always say, then. “I’ll let it go.”

If keeping something’s the right thing to do, after all,  you won’t need to ask. You’ll know.

That’s what friends are for, I suddenly realize. They help you remember what you already know.