Are you weighed down unnecessarily?
December 12, 2017

On a beautiful spring day in Kansas City many years ago I had lunch with a guy who was friends with the guy I’d finally broken up with. He’d seen me in a shopping mall, when his pals had elbowed him to look at the cute girl (me). “I know her!” he’d exclaimed. Except he wasn’t sure it was me. Because, as he now told me over salads, I’d looked “statuesque” and “confident.”

I don’t know what statuesque means to you, but to me it evokes good posture -- which I’m rarely accused of having. It makes sense, looking back. Of course I was walking taller. It’s demoralizing to be in a relationship that’s headed nowhere, and I was no longer walking around with that weight on my shoulders.

Oh, sure. I’ve been in love a couple of times. It’s a lovely feeling. But I think I’d take “not being with someone who makes me feel bad” every day of the week and twice on Sunday! You don’t have to take my word for it. Just look at my posture.