Are you trying too hard to fit in?
May 11, 2019

New to that job, are you? Here’s an idea. Don’t expect people to take to you right away. You aren’t necessarily being evaluated on your own merits. You're being compared against the last person to hold that position, someone who was -- if not family -- familiar.

My friend Jane Brody knows. She’s forever following someone else in a teaching position, and she’s learned how to make those transitions easier. How? “By remembering that even a perfect pair of shoes has to be broken in.”

Good point!

You know how you feel when people try to force friendships. Not good. So hang back, respond with enthusiasm to the small kindnesses, and give it time.

You’ll be fine.